A Heavy Heart
October 6, 2009
There is so much going n in my life right now. I have a lot on my mind – mostly about things that I can not really talk about on this public platform but also things that I have absolutely no control over. I guess that’s what makes it the hardest to deal with. What I am learning from the events and issues that have arisen this year is the following (and please let me just add here that I am not referring to anybody in particular or trying to sound self-righteous – I am always the first person to raise my hand and admit my faults – I would not ever even wish to be a perfect person).
- if you have an opinion about somebody or something, keep it to yourself – unless it’s good. I can’t even understand why one would ever inform somebody of their negative opinions – it’s only hurtful and doesn’t show you in a very good light
- Be very very careful of judging people – I am a living example and there are many out there – that one day just maybe you may find yourself in the very position that you are judging about
- as regards parenting: we are all trying our very best, we all love our children more than anything in the world – and the proof of the pudding is that even though our styles of parenting may differ, we all have very happy and healthy little children – this means that none of us can be doing anything that wrong!
- some people just love drama – they can create a whirlwind of trouble and then walk away while everyone else has to pick up the pieces – from now on I am choosing to cut such people out of my life
- at the end of the day, all you really have is your family – cherish them whether you want to or not – you may regret it if you don’t
- the friendships that i have formed are true and lasting ones – even those that I don’t see often enough – each and every one of you is so special to me and have made me into the person that I am now – I love you all for this more than you can ever know
- i am learning a lot about the person that i am and overall I like me! I believe in myself – i think that I am a good person, friend, wife and mother – and I am learning slowly to stand up for myself a little bit more
- Related to above: I don’t really care that much anymore what people think of me – I am who I am
- being sad sometimes is part of life, sometimes shit happens – it’s how you deal with it that counts
Ok there is my list. Sorry if it seems harsh or heavy – suffice to say the things I am dealing with right now are making me very sad. What I do know is that I am truly blessed. I am so lucky to have a wonderful and supportive husband, and a little girl (and one on the way) that makes me smile and laugh every single day and makes life absolutely worth living and more. I hope I can be a good example to them as to what kind of person they should be.
Lots of love everyone xxx
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We love you my poppet….always have always will…you and Steven and Sarah are such a lovely family and you are quite right to avoid judgmental and sharp tongued folk. Rise above if you can(sometimes it is hard when you are feeling tired and vulnerable and should I add … PREGNANT!!!) and keep smiling. Love and hugs Fiona xxx
I enjoyed this post and you sharing your thoughts as it was raw and real. I agree that we are all just doing our best as parents, and the same goes for all people in general – just trying to survive and cope in an often crazy and confusing world. Family and friends are what give us meaning xxx
Really solid list.
Kindness matters.
So does gratitude.
I like the prayer known as the Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi.
It has gotten me through some challenging moments of turmoil and upheaval.
With a little editing it can fit into any belief (or non-belief) system.
Hugs from far away…
;o)
- Lee
Sorry to hear that life’s giving you lemons at the moment! I hope things improve for you soon. Your list is so spot on, I wish people would consider other’s feelings before blurting out their thoughts… Thinking of you and sending a huge hug xxx
It’s a perfectly sensible list. My mum always says if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything. She also always told us to be nice to each other!
I think you’d get along.
I know what you mean about some folk needing drama, Mr Brown’s sisters are a prime example. Unfortunately, some people are a little more difficult to just cut out of your life.
Still, it could be worse, let’s be glad it isn’t.